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Chidera Eggerue's Guide to Getting Over a Boy

Introduce yourself.

 

My name is Chidera Eggerue, aka The Slumflower. I am a best-selling author, and I am 25 years old. 

 

How would you describe yourself to someone who has never met you?

 

I would describe myself as a writer, activist and feminist.

 

You’ve just released your second book, How To Get Over A Boy. What inspired the creation of this book? Why did you decide that this was the right time to drop this gem?

 

I hope that the book will help those going through break ups to embrace the opportunity of singledom and channel something positive from the experience. There is no right or wrong time, but this message needs to be out there.

 

How do you normally get over a boy?

 

By spending quality time with myself, learning a new skill, being alone and enjoying it.

 

You’ve gone viral on social media several times, and have used your voice to educate and destigmatize societally-deemed “non-attractive” features such as alopecia and saggy titties. What has been the feedback you’ve received after speaking on these topics?

 

It is mixed. There are haters, and there are negatives. But for example, when I launched the #saggyboobsmatter hashtag, I was contacted by women of all ages and backgrounds praising my stance. Recently, my documentary Bringing Back the Bush on Channel 4 celebrating pubic hair was critically acclaimed, including the FT—but it came about because of the negative comments I received after posting a picture on social media.

 

Name one thing that makes you smile.

 

My family makes me smile.

 

I’ve read your first book, What A Time To Be Alone, when it first came out two years ago—it was eye-opening, refreshing, and just what I needed at that time. How can your supporters use what they learned from your book and implicate it into today during the heightened time of social distancing?

 

Obviously I wasn’t predicting a pandemic when I wrote the book, but learning to enjoy being alone is the best education you can have. So it is just as valuable in a time of crisis.

 

What is the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?

 

Find your joy.

 

Pushing boundaries and breaking social norms seem to be the top of your listwas this always a part of your game plan?

 

My mother raised me to ask questions, but growing up in South London as a black girl, I realized that these questions needed to be vocalized on a larger stage. I needed to challenge the so-called social norm.

 

Fast forward five years into the futurehow do you envision your life?

 

In five years time, I’ll have my own show where I’ll be encouraging women to take control of their self-esteem. Netflix, I hope you’re listening!

 

Chidera's How To Get Over A Boy is available now for purchase. Go grab a copy, sit down, and take notes.

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