Before we get started, what name do you currently go by?
My name is Tom Cat.
Has your name changed throughout your life?
Yeah, from Thomas to Tom around high school. I stopped wanting to sound like a dead white guy. I had to change my name – it just doesn’t fit me. People see me and they don’t think my name is Thomas.
What are your pronouns?
How do you identify?
I identify as an androgynous trans-feminine person.
Could you speak to what was your transition process was like?
It’s fucking annoying. It’s really inaccessible. I have to redefine what transitioning means to me, so that way I can be okay with saying that I transitioned because on a financial level—it’s just like the small things, like laser hair removal or wanting to get my sperm frozen before I start taking hormones. All these things that people don’t talk about is a lot of money and work. For me, transitioning has become more about accepting myself and presenting myself the way that I feel comfortable with, rather than worrying about the medical aspects. And I’m privileged because I get to live in a world and time where people are also encouraging that.
That’s why I identify as trans-fem because I don’t feel like I’m transitioning into manhood or womanhood—I’m just transitioning into myself. I started doing hormone therapy, and had to stop because it requires a lot of disciple and a lot stability that I just don’t have right now. I definitely had to redefine transitioning for myself.