This year, office has decided to celebrate V-Day with friends, partners and members of the kink community, Lua Saturni and Dem0nette. Together, they reminisce about the first time they met, and talk about everything from love languages to BDSM as a learning tool. If we got anything from the conversation and accompanying images by LA photogragher Alexandra Kacha, it's that there's nothing hotter than communication—that, and we got a little turned on.
Peep the conversation and photos, below.
Lua Saturni: Starting with how we met—my memory is a little bit hazy but I know that we briefly went to high school together until I got kicked out for cussing out the principal, because he sucked. But after that—and during that a little bit—we were definitely part of the same party scene for awhile.
Dem0nette: My first memory of you, actually, was at a Starbucks.
Lua Saturni: That’s my first memory of you, too.
Dem0nette: So, that’s a good starting place, because everything before that, we were pretty much headless chickens, or focused on other things. But regarding how we met, it was at a Starbucks through a mutual friend at the time.
Lua Saturni: Acquaintance is the word I will use. He was a colorful character who really enjoyed, I guess, flexing socially, specifically by name-dropping and show-ponying his friends to other friends to somehow lift himself up in quality a little bit. But luckily, not all of the connections I made through him were bad. In fact, most of them I would say were good as a result of his show-ponying all of us quality people around. But we met at Starbucks and talked about I guess whatever teenagers talk about at the time—you know stuff we liked to listen to, ways you enjoyed bonding and relaxing with people, or getting intimate with them—not necessarily physically, but you know, through drugs. We talked about drugs a lot.
Dem0nette: But one of the most striking things about you was, and still to this day, your appearance—I feel like that’s always been a very important quality, as shallow as that sounds. But mostly because, not for me selfishly to be attracted to you by chance or by any means, but more so because a lot of your professions were very focused on how you look. And also—I don’t know if you had your tattoos—but your 'trust issues' tattoo back then.
Lua Saturni: I don’t think I had any tattoos at that point yet. I waited like a person is supposed to, and got my first one when I was 18. God, I remember meeting you and thinking, ‘I fucking hate that dude, but she is really cool.’ I wanted to hang out with you more, for sure.
Dem0nette: That was the first time we physically met. But as far as when we started interacting, it took a much longer time for us to get the wheels turning, I think because our lives were in different places, although we were moving around similar circles. Especially with being involved in different communities and having different hobbies, there was a lot of overlap in the giant umbrella of hobbies, such as fire performance and performance in general, and kink.
Lua Saturni: Our mutual interests definitely overlapped. But it felt like we would always just barely miss each other. We met again, briefly, through work, funny enough. But only by location. And then another time at a kink event. It was like a play party performance. One of the girls dancing was like ‘Hey, want to come do this thing with us?’ and I was like, ‘Yeah sure, that sounds great!’
Dem0nette: I know you were there to perform in a dancing capacity, and I was there to perform on a rope. But my rope top at the time really enjoyed the attention being good at rope brought him. We went in and performed together, and then he fucked off and did other shit because there was a lot of focus on everybody else. But that gave us a good opportunity to finally make out on the floor. I remember you tasting like cigarettes that night.
Lua Saturni: You kissed really nice.
Dem0nette: Thanks, you too! Then we kind of disappeared out of each other’s lives for a hot minute before meeting up through the same party scene and entering a more dedicated, long term relationship with each other. Our lives just finally just crashed together and we decided like, you want to get kinky? Cool! You want to set stuff on fire? Also cool!
Lua Saturni: You want to sit on the couch and do nothing but whippits? Great! But then we started hanging out more intimately, like visiting each other’s homes and such. But that went out for a really long time—almost ten years.