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Parley for the OceansParley for the Oceans
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Parley for the OceansParley for the Oceans
Posted by Facebook on Wednesday, June 6th, 2018



What does great hospitality mean to you right now?
Great hospitality to me is about rewriting the script. For so long, “great service” has been this polished almost performative service that feels somewhat rehearsed and distant. My lens is rooted in humanity first. It’s about engaging people as people, not transactions and being present, reading the room and creating interactions that actually feel natural and intentional. I believe in being deeply personable, but with purpose. When its done right, there’s no forced charm, just genuine connection that makes someone feel seen.
What separates a good members club from a great one?
What separates a good members club from a great one is the difference between access and belonging. A good club offers beautiful designed spaces, strong programming and a sense of exclusivity. But a great one goes beyond that and creates an environment where people feel genuinely known and seen. It comes down to intentionality and how people are welcomed when they arrived but also how they’re remembered and engaged over time. A members club shouldn’t be just a place you go, it should be a place that reflects you back to yourself in an organic and natural way.


How do you build a room people actually want to be in?
Honestly, it starts before the doors even open. I think about the energy, the mix and the little social dynamics that aren’t obvious on paper but completely decide how a room unfolds. It’s not just about who’s “impressive” it’s about who sparks conversation, who shifts the mood, who brings a bit of magic. The design of a space matters of course, I am a homosexual after all, but that’s just the backdrop, the real work is in the orchestration and how people arrive, who they’re greeted by, the first few interactions they have. I’m also always thinking about connecting dots and introducing people who didn’t know they needed to meet, making sure no one feels out of place. There’s a level of looseness I think is important so the crowd doesn’t feel over managed but that they’re unfolding naturally even though there’s always intention behind it. It should feel a little electric and a little unexpected as if anything could happen.
Right now, I’m really excited by this shift toward bold maximalism. For a while luxury hospitality felt very restrained, very neutral, almost like spaces were trying not to say too much, but now it kinda feels like the opposite in the best way. Spaces are leaning into color, personality, humor… a little bit of intentional chaos. I love when a space doesn’t take itself too seriously when you walk in and there’s something unexpected, something that makes you smile or do a double take. It disarms people and gives them permission to loosen up and engage more naturally. There’s also something really powerful when a space feels like its been there forever and evolved over time rather than being perfectly packaged. It creates a sense of discovery, people don’t just pass through, they interact with it. Bold spaces create bolder interactions, they feel expressive, playful, and much more human. And that’s what I think people are craving right now.


And one you think is overdone?
Exclusivity for the sake of exclusivity. For a while, it worked for sure, there was a certain allure to being hard to access. But now, people are a lot more perceptive and they can tell when something is genuinely special rather than just being positioned that way, the issue is when access becomes the whole story. A great space can’t rely on a door policy or a membership model alone, it has to actually deliver once you’re inside. Otherwise it starts to feel hollow, like the idea of the place matters more than the experience itself. For me, the most interesting spaces are the ones that have a sense of discernment and substance and actually being “in the room” means something because of the people and the energy. Exclusivity should be a byproduct, not the whole foundation because when it’s earned, you feel it. When it’s forced, you really feel that too.
What makes someone a great member?
Id say it’s less about status and more about energy. A great member understands that they’re not just there to take from the room but they should be adding to it too. They bring something with them, whether that’s perspective, curiosity or just the ability to make other people feel comfortable. There’s also a level of awareness, they know how to read the room, when to lean in and when to give space and how to include others without making it a performance. I’m always drawn to people who are generous with their presence, in the sense that they love to introduce people and connect dots, they don’t gatekeep the experience.
How important is cultural relevance for a hotel or club today?
It’s everything!! but only if it’s real. You can’t fake it anymore, and you definitely can’t bolt it on. People can walk in and immediately feel whether something’s actually connected to what’s happening or just trying to look like it is. For me, it’s about actually being in the mix rather thasing it. The best spaces feel like they’re part of the rhythm already. They have a point of view, they attract the right people, and things just start to happen naturally. It’s less “look at us” and more “you kind of had to be there.” There’s also this openness that’s really important right now. The most exciting places are a little bit fluid and they’re all colliding in a way that feels effortless, a little unexpected and honestly just fun to be around. At the end of the day, it’s not about trying to be culturally relevant, it’s about being somewhere where culture is actually unfolding in real time.

Haley Albert: It’s a week after DENIER 2, our second erotica salon. How are you feeling about it?
Alice Scope: Feeling erotic doesn’t always look the way you expect. The evening was actually very tender
Mindy Seu: My takeaway was that erotica is actually very wholesome. There was flirtatious energy and a very active audience, but there was also this incredibly engaged listening. There was a cheekiness in the air, but it didn’t feel overtly sexy. Everyone left around midnight, but maybe that’s an LA thing. During the readings, we watched people talk about erotic topics, but there was this collective awareness that we were all participating in a performance. We were playing with traditionally erotic themes in a very safe way. And maybe eroticism needs a little risk — a different kind of risk than what happened.
AS: The setting was also like a 1990s erotic thriller, which honestly did 80% of the work.
MS: Hah, yes, my dream has always been to live on the set of a ’90s erotic thriller. When I first saw this loft years ago, I became obsessed with it. Now to call this my home and to host gatherings here, using this skyline as a backdrop in a city with such cinematic history, it truly feels like a set of a performance. We’ve also all been thinking about erotica in some way in our independent works.
HA: When we were first brainstorming this, I approached Mindy about doing some kind of live radio or salon. My friend Georgia Lil and I host a show called Erotica Radio Hour on Frank News. Originally we thought about doing a live radio taping where people read erotic writing, but it evolved into something much more interesting.
AS: A year ago I curated an exhibition called Erotic Codex. The central question was: how has technology changed our perception of sexuality? I became fascinated with the idea of relationships with non-human entities — dating chatbots, intimate relationships with AI. When we started talking together, it felt like all of our fields overlapped, but each of us was approaching the topic from slightly different directions.
MS: As I’ve moved into my mid-thirties, I want my life to feel like an extension of my art practice. My latest projects Cyberfeminism Index and A Sexual History of the Internet deals with embodied technologies and revisionist internet histories. But growing up in a very conservative environment, sexuality felt extremely taboo. Over the last decade I’ve actively tried to give myself permission to talk about these things openly. When you make work about people, embodiment and desire are inherent.
AS: I was born in the Soviet Union. There’s this famous phrase: “There is no sex in the USSR.” It came from a televised conversation between the US and the Soviet Union. A woman said, “There is no sex”, meaning there was no sex on television, so it became symbolic of the taboo. Growing up, there was no sex education, no erotic magazines. At home we had one French animated cassette and one porn tape my parents owned that I accidentally watched as a child. I think that moment planted the seed of my fascination with eroticism. Haley, did you grow up in a conservative environment too?
HA: Not really. My household was actually very permissive which sometimes had the opposite effect — hearing your parents talk openly about sex when you’re a kid can make you retreat into your shell.
It made me very aware of the performative aspect of talking about sexuality. I kept wondering: what is erotic experience actually, beyond the performance of talking about it? Is it a feeling you tap into? A longing? Dissatisfaction? A kind of encounter?
AS: Something that surprised me was that a few people cancelled at the last minute because they felt shy about sharing a story. I found that shocking. It’s 2026 — why are we still shy about talking about eroticism?
HA: I don’t think it was about the content of what people were reading. It was about the act of reading it to each other. Standing on a bed, holding a microphone, saying something intimate and risky — that was the erotic act. Not necessarily the words themselves.
MS: Yes, the eros come from vulnerability.
AS: As a curator I attend so many readings and panels where I think, could this be shorter? So I thought: what if everyone only had one minute? Then you can only say what you really want to say. I also liked replacing a stage with a bed and making it participatory.
MS: One minute forces people to get to the climax quickly. Twenty or so people reading for one minute each felt fast and fun, like an erotic news broadcast. The name DENIER also relates to restraint. It suggests denial, teasing — giving just enough but not too much. Then we discovered that “denier” is also a textile measurement, a thread count. It was the perfect convergence.
HA: Why do you think there was such strong collective energy?
MS: More than half the audience were also readers. When people feel like they’re co-creating something, they’re invested in everyone succeeding.
AS: The lineup also mattered. High-energy performers next to quiet, whispering poets. That contrast made everything feel dynamic.
MS: Have our salons changed how you define the erotic? I realized something: eroticism might not be performable. You can share stories about it, but actually feeling erotic is deeply embodied.
HA: Maybe performance simply gives you a way to notice the feeling. After one reading, Luca [Piccin] came offstage saying, “I feel so sexy right now.” The performance itself created that charge.
AS: I also thought about ancient Greece, where eros meant passionate love. You could feel erotic energy collectively, among friends, through gathering. The actual erotic moment last night might have been after the readings, when people were socializing and feeling the chemistry.
HA: We’re not starved for erotic imagery today — we’re flooded with it. So maybe the erotic today lives in the cracks. In a world saturated with sexual imagery, the erotic becomes something subtler, something you feel when you slow down enough to notice it.
DENIER 1 took place in April 2025. It included one-minute stories (in order) by Lena Chen, Esra Soraya Padgett, Lauren Lee McCarthy, Star Feliz, K Allado-McDowell, Huntrezz, Iman Person, Clare Gillen, Jake Levy, Haley Albert, Ibuki Kuramochi, Silas Munro, Halleta Alemu, Luca Piccin, Mindy Seu, Nick Harwood, Noelle Perdue, Max Friedlich, Alice Scope, Kola Heyward-Rotimi, Lindsey Normington, Jesse Damiani, Siri Dahl, Armen Nalbandian, Alice Bucknell, and Sammy Sins
DENIER 2 took place in February 2026. It included one-minute stories (in order) by Rei Hertzler, Karl Charles, Alicia Novella Vasquez, Pierce Myers, Eileen Isagorn Skyers, Zack Seekoff, Rina Nicolae, John Threat, Olive Kimoto, Sammy Loren, Christina Lu, Haley Albert, Andrew Thomas Huang, Alice Scope, Sylvan Rackham, Gabrielle Richardson, Alima Lee, Nora Berman, and Maya Man.