MS — Going off of that, how do you feel about the current wave of feminism, especially how it’s playing out in the media? America is in this really interesting place, with the president and the current administration constantly rolling back protections for women, and other-bodied people, and in Hollywood, we see almost the opposite, where it’s trying to fix itself with the #MeToo movement and outing all of the men that have been fucking shit up for years and years and years. I’m always careful with this kind of question when I’m talking to female artists because I recognize it can be incredibly annoying or condescending, or even just repetitive, to constantly be hearing things like, ‘What’s it like as a woman in the music industry?’ but I do find your perspective particularly intriguing because you have been in it for almost 20 years.
KO — It’s been such a long time coming, and the message is finally out that it’s not cool to sexually harass or assault women and think you can get away with it. In my lifetime, this is a brand new thing, that it’s finally out in the open, and I feel like because it’s been such a long time coming, the heat and the rage and the energy is just so hot—it’s crazed—because the floodgates have finally opened. So, like with anything, there has to be a period of time for that initial shock, and upset, and rage, to sort itself out, so that it’s not so raw. But for me, I’m so appreciative of the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements, especially because I have a little boy, and I want him to grow up knowing that it’s not cool to treat women that way, and that society won’t accept it, instead of thinking, ‘Oh well, boys will be boys,’ like it was when I was growing up. And for little girls growing up now, it doesn’t have to be ambiguous that if someone is being creepy with you, or mistreating you, you don’t have to just accept it. Before, you’d find yourself in these situations, and especially for women in the entertainment industry, you’d want to leave, but have to think, ‘Shit, is this going to ruin my career if I ghost on this pervert?’ So now, finally, you can walk away and say something.
MS — Speaking of your son, you said in the press release for the album, that the more you’ve lived, the less was clear to you. That surprised me, because after being in the music industry for so long, one would expect that you’d be like, an oracle, and have learned all the tricks of the trade. Do you think that feeling is connected to your new role as a mother, and what you’ve been learning from that?
KO — That’s definitely a huge part of it. In a way, you start over when you have a kid—it’s a brand new life, a brand new chapter, and you actually have no idea what you’re doing as a new parent. Even though I had my son later in life, and I thought I was pretty dialed in by that point, I had him and the rug got pulled out from under me. Especially when he was a newborn, I felt like, ‘I’m not passing this with flying colors right now. I have no idea what the fuck I’m doing.’ But that’s actually an amazing feeling to have later in life, because it’s incredibly humbling, and it makes you a better person—to understand that you don’t really know what you’re doing. It’s hard, but it’s better, because it’s easier to take things for granted if you think you know everything. And life isn’t as mysterious as we think. When you cut the net from underneath you, you expand the possibility of everything around you, and that can be scary, because it also expands the possibility for all of the worst things, like loss, or failure. But it doesn’t bug you as much when you get older— loss does, of course, but not so much failure, at least for me. It generally all works out.
MS — Is there a freedom in writing songs like the ones you did with Danger Mouse? Like, do you feel less pressure to uphold a standard you set for yourself with previous music, or with Yeah Yeah Yeahs songs, since that is, in a lot of ways, your home base? I imagine that it’s maybe less personal than writing something like Crush Songs.
KO — It’s one hundred percent a different vibe. There’s just much less pressure in the sense that it’s a brand new start, a blank canvas, and you only get that once, when you work with someone for the first time. But it’s just like any sort of recipe in a cookbook—you put a couple of ingredients together, and you don’t know exactly what you’re going to get, but sometimes it turns out delicious. For that first time especially, you get the innocence back, and I just love it. Are you going to work with new people for your next record?
MS — Yeah, probably. I like working with different producers on different things, and right now I’m working with four people I’ve never worked with before. It’s been really fun and freeing in a similar way. After I made the first record I was very quickly like, ‘Oh let’s make another one because now I know how to actually make a record.’ But I’m finding now that maybe I don’t, because I’m working with new people and doing things I’ve never done before.
KO — I think any artist worth their salt would say the same thing. Even going in with Danger Mouse, it took a minute to break the ice between us because we didn’t know each other very well. One day, we would do something really awesome and think, ‘Oh my god, this is the best, we’re nailing it right now.’ Then, an hour later, ‘I don’t think I have it anymore, I lost it, I don’t know what I’m doing here and this is super embarrassing.’ It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been doing it for, or the level of success you’ve achieved, or how much experience you have, whenever you start something new, you’re starting from square one and you just have no idea if it’s going to be any good. When you’re finished, hopefully you’ll feel good enough about it and yourself, that whatever happens in the world, you can be happy and stand behind your work. — END