The Inside View


What is the most common icebreaker a client uses when he sits down?
Usually, it’s more up to us to make contact and find a little way to start the conversation. But obviously, some clients will come straight over to us.
It can start simply by telling us that they find us very beautiful, or with a more direct and less classy approach like, “How much?”
I’ve often had the classic “you remind me of someone,” followed by “some actress,” or more recently, “I think I’ve seen you in an X-rated movie…”
When a guy is trying to play it cool, what’s the giveaway that he's actually nervous?
It depends on the person.
Some guys act way too comfortable in these places, as if they already know all the codes. They talk a lot, with this little need to put themselves forward and show that they supposedly don’t need to be there to find a girl.
They play the mysterious guy, the guy who has the whole situation under control…
But it’s actually when they try a little too hard to seem relaxed that you realize they’re probably trying to hide something.
How quickly does a first-timer's posture change once they settle into the space?
Very quickly. Sometimes after the very first dance. At first, they can be a little more reserved.
Then, once they understand how things work, they start finding their feet.
That’s when they can start wanting to test the limits, set their own conditions, or go from one dance to another with different dancers…


What’s the best part of guiding someone through the experience for the very first time?
Ah, the first private dance… It’s always quite fun to do, because you’re almost certain to see him leave the room pretty excited, already wanting more. It’s also at that point that you can turn them into a returning client.
I don’t think I’ve ever had a first experience that went badly… quite the opposite. It’s often their first real glimpse of what goes on behind the curtains of the red rooms.
How do you navigate the quiet grief or loneliness that so many clients accidentally bring into the room with them?
We’re all a little lonely, in our own way.
We’re not there to solve their problems, but if we can give them a good time, listen to them a little and offer them a little escape, that’s already something.
What is the unspoken negotiation happening in the room that nobody ever talks about?
It’s a bit of a performance…
He comes looking for a fantasy, and we make that fantasy come to life through the service we provide.
Everyone knows the rules… but they’re not necessarily said out loud.


When a client completely embraces the mutual exchange, what does that dynamic look like?
It’s smooth.
He enjoys himself, and we enjoy the exchange too.
And if he’s a gentleman, pleasant, and has no problem pulling out his card to have a good time : bingo! Good night.
Is attraction from strippers just a choreography?
A lot of it is choreography, yes. We’re there to make money by selling a service and we have to keep moving from one client to the next. We adapt to what each man wants to see. Whether he wants to feel desired, admired or just special. That’s part of the job.
But sometimes, you genuinely have a good time. In a strange way, it’s almost like speed dating every night. Sometimes you click with someone. You have a great conversation, you laugh, or you just genuinely enjoy his company.
So yes, we’re performing, but that doesn’t mean everything is choreography. Sometimes you’re playing a fantasy while still being completely yourself.
Where’s the line between real intimacy and a damn good show?
Good question. I’ve always felt there’s a form of intimacy in giving a lap dance. You’re physically close, sharing yourself, naked, grinding on a guy, even if it’s part of the show. But real intimacy is something else; and a hundred times more precious.
When you dance for different men every night, you learn the difference :
You can perform intimacy, but choosing someone because you genuinely want to be close to them, it’s a whole different kind of chemistry.
What kind of attention actually costs top dollar?
Probably acting like you could be his girlfriend or lover. It’s the fantasy of having you in his life that can make them spend a fortune :)


















