Khleopatre has been moving under the radar as an It-girl to those who know… Until now. The up-and-coming certified CEO has major plans for the next year—her very own makeup label that she’ll be releasing soon.
Stay informed on our latest news!
Stay informed on our latest news!
Khleopatre has been moving under the radar as an It-girl to those who know… Until now. The up-and-coming certified CEO has major plans for the next year—her very own makeup label that she’ll be releasing soon.
RONALD KAHIHIKOLO — First and foremost, how did Khleopatre come to be? In other words, where did your alias come from?
KHLEOPATRE — When I was young, my mama would always tell me stories about Nefertiti and Cleopatra, but she would tell it in her own ways and create this fantasy. She’d tell me these stories because she’s very passionate about ancient Egypt and I’m also Egyptian as well. So, it just came from that and you know when you play with your cousins? Like, ‘Oh I’m this superstar—I’m this, I’m that?’ I always used to say that I’m Cleopatra or Nefertiti. So it just stuck and at some point in my life before I shaved my head, I cut it on a square, did a bang and it was sort of like Khleopatre.
RK — What do most people know you from and how would you like to be known?
K — Most people know me from Instagram but I’d like to be known as a CEO.
RK — In a broader sense, what are you most excited about right now? yourself to anyone that hasn’t found their way to you yet?
K — I always say that I’m a make-up artist, part time model, and I also do art direction.
RK — You’re also a street style icon and your style can be labeled as a playful mixture between vintage and ultramodern. It seems like you’re honestly just having a fun time. How do you conceptualize your vision?
K — I go through phases—sometimes I’ll wear boy clothes so I would just be on tomboy mode, some other times I really want to be girly, and some other times I want to look like a teacher, so I’ll just wear skirts. It really depends on my mood and I’m really inspired by anime or the ‘50s with artists, like Frida Kahlo and just art in general. Sometimes furniture inspires my outfits as well. I’ll just see something and it’ll give me inspiration and I don’t really get inspiration from people, what inspires me more is the way they behave—it’s more emotionally driven.
RK — Going back to the subject of makeup, what fascinates you the most about makeup?
K — I’m actually making my own makeup brand right now, so I’m super excited about that. I’ve had the idea of making my own makeup brand since forever and now it’s actually coming to life. I have a partner who I’m doing all that with and hopefully I’ll be able to launch it by next year.
RK — When do you feel the most assured or like yourself?
K — When I’m creating because it allows me to open up my heart and that’s where my visions come from and when I’m in my bubble.
RK — We’re slowly getting introduced to your universe. How would you detail your universe and what’re the laws?
K — My universe is colorful, the perfect mix between anime and spirituality and the 50s. Ruled by the pronoia ( the opposite of paranoia) and gratitude for anything that happens.
RK — It seems like you dabble a bit in everything —a real hustler—how would you introduce did you decide to start your own makeup line?
K — I always mix a lot of makeup. I love to do eye shadows ever since I was able to do makeup by myself. I love to use vibrant colors and glitters. Most of the time I need to mix a lot of products together to get the look that I want. So I was just like, ‘Let me just make palettes that have everything in one.’ Also, on my journey and for my brand, I do a lot of color research—I also do a lot of research on materials and fabrics and it’s really amazing and I recommend it to everyone.
RK — I’ve also seen that you’ve styled other people before. Do you find it harder or easier to dress someone else? What goes on in your mind when you’re trying to curate a look for someone?
K — I will say it’s hard for me when I don’t feel the person but I love to style my friends and help them dress and all that. But when it comes to work, if I don’t know the person, I find it harder. Definitely, because I don’t know what the person likes or doesn’t like, it’s just really hard. I know how it feels to just get thrown in an outfit that you might not like as a model. That’s why I don’t really do that anymore, but I love to dress my friends.
ANNA ZANES — You’re from Los Angeles originally?
PETER SHIRE — Yes, I am. When the Dodgers left Brooklyn, we all were with my dad on that one. We were sad that that sort of tradition and a passion was leaving for commerciality— and now that they’re here, I’m sad because they’re here and they’re assholes.
AZ — So you’re not a Dodgers fan?
PS — What’s the point?
AZ — I wouldn’t know. I’m not a sports person.
PS — Right, you go spend $300 on authentic jerseys and pennants, go see a game for $100... They’re worried that younger people aren’t into baseball. It’s an interesting sport, though. I went to see a baseball game with a guy in Baton Rouge, college baseball, which could be more fun. You know, one of my friends pointed out something about basketball— it’s seeing a bunch of millionaires trying not to hurt themselves. That’s so true. But the thing is, once a guy gets on second base, to get a point to get a home run is almost inevitable. But there’s these very slow moving strategies.
AZ — But it just doesn’t do it for you?
PS — Sitting with him was great. We’d just eat sunflower seeds, and throw him out in the aisle, so when we left there were all these little piles.
The neighborhood of Echo Park, like much of East Los Angeles, has seen dramatic changes due to gentrification over recent years. As a born-and-raised Brooklynite, I can empathize with the frustration and dysphoria of a community suddenly flooded by hipsters, tote bags, and increased rent. Upon entering Shire’s studio space, I realized why, perhaps, the artist was able to remain so steadfast irregardless of the wavering surroundings. Shire’s studio was another world— a bubble of color and charisma more akin to Willy Wonka’s workshop than any space I’d ever occupied in the state of California. But this, having even the slightest understanding of Shire’s work, should not come as a shock— alongside the artist’s legacy as a founding member of Milan’s Memphis design group, his signature tongue-in-cheek take on Bauhaus style has become an emblem in the art and design world, and beyond, for decades. As much as it hurts my stomach to use such a cliche— the title of Renaissance man truly does go to Peter Shire.
AZ — Do you have any resentment to the fact that the neighborhood has changed so much?
PS — Well, the thing about interviews now is that letting your hair down is dangerous. You say something that can take your career apart, or you can say something that hurt somebody’s feelings. Or you could even say something that haunts you in interviews for the next 2525 years! It would haunt me and then I’d live longer and have to live through it, you know. But me, do I resent it? We try to cope with things. Tell ourselves things. You know, some of it is platitudes, but how do I really feel? On one hand, I think about it all the time. I should have a list, you know, there’s a group of questions that are perennial. One of the things that I’ve come up with to sort of deflect the disappointment, well, a lot of it’s very offensive. And what it is, is that when things start to go, there’s a group of people that are greedy, and they have nothing to do with it. But they come in, like this guy next door. He doesn’t know what the devil is happening here with a capital F. Yes. No fucking clue. He is very funny because he said his daughter won’t live in the places he’s building. You know? That’s not right. If you won’t live in it, you shouldn’t be doing it. This is a key issue. Because what we’re doing here and what I’ve been doing and what I’ve sort of taken my knocks in order to survive and do is to do something better. Instead, these guys are doing something worse to just make money. Gravity’s attached. Right. It’s for the future. Yeah, right. Building a slum is for the future. Thank you. You won’t even live in it. Have you always lived here? Yeah. I live in my parents house.
AZ — And you’ve never lived anywhere else. Would you?
PS — Conceivably, of course, I’d love to live in Ravello. But I’m not ready to. Let’s just say I’m not funded.
AZ — Fair enough. Do you feel like you have a creative community here?
PS — Echo Park has always had that sort of flavor. These kinds of things are very deceiving. When we talk about Art Deco, Nouveau, or craftsman, we’re talking about our creative community or a moment. It’s really a small group of people. It always is. This is ketosis, where the power is, in these kinds of things. I love going down the street, especially in this pandemic era— it seems like I’ve never seen so many mattresses thrown away. I know. What the hell is that? Is it because everybody slept so much they broke their mattresses down, or they treat themselves to a new mattress as always, because they’re really using it? What’s with the mattresses! And the same with furniture, I’m seeing living room ensembles very often. Then you realize just how much really terrible stuff gets made and bought. And thoughtlessly bought, just you know. I was friendly with a guy named Scott Runyon, and Scott was one of the fashion majors at Chouinard. He had been part of a group of USA, as a former Ice Capades ice skater, a member of a group of ten a nutball gay guys in San Francisco that called themselves the Cockettes and did Rockettes routines. That was quite a deal. You know, San Francisco is a special place— it’s sort of got its own it’s kind of wall around it. Anyway, Scott’s comment to me was would I rather have a really good cloth coat or a not-so-good leather coat. Right? There’s a great Somerset Maugham story where he’s describing a woman who had gone off to live on a Greek island. This guy who had a thing for her went to go to see her and describes the house as having very little furniture, but all of it really good.
Building on a body of work consisting of many mediums— such as ceramics (notably his bright, abstract teapots, a twist on Art Deco meets Art Nouveau), to furniture and architecture, Shire has been honored with many awards and opportunities to contribute back to his home state of California as one of its most dedicated creatives. Shire took me around his workplace, as I teetered behind him with espresso brimming the edge of one of his own ceramic creations. He’s had a space in this neighborhood, where he was raised, for nearly fifty years. Each detail— from the rainbow colored kilns, to the angular handles on each neon drawer in the archival rooms, I began to understand, matched the artists’ personality quite perfectly. Each eccentricity, of which there were many, bounced off the walls as we dug through Shire’s collection of collector’s Disney watches, maps of the city, rows and rows of teapots. figures who have become monoliths. Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods, Britney Spears—to a certain extent, they no longer control their own identity to the public. That’s really, really fascinating to me. I say that I want to be an art star, and I want the things that the public perceives to be good to come along with celebrity. In art terms, it would be showing at blue chip galleries, being held in renowned public and private collections, museum exhibitions, being able to make literally whatever you want. But there’s the flip side of that: you live long enough to be a hero, you can also become the villain. Everyone has a microscope on you. I say I want it all, but I guess we’ll see when the time comes.
AZ — I don’t love the way this will sound, as I try to avoid “perennial” interview questions, but I am fascinated to hear your take on your work being fine art versus utilitarian? Where do you think it falls?
PS — That’s a big question.
AZ — It is a big question.
PS — We were joking about that last night. So we might as well keep it going. We seem to gain sort of protective answers to things like that. Let’s face it. The stuff is extreme. That’s what it’s about. I love really cool pieces, I mean, the Eames is what’s great, right? When you start talking about pieces like that— I’m struggling with this, to make it simple. I don’t even have to make it simple. These things come out of an era being a Baby Boomer, an adolescent of the 60s, are imperative— our economic surroundings were much different. We were coming out of the Second World War in the 50’s, and people will get all nostalgic about the 50’s and drive in’s and hot rods and teenagers in hoop skirts and poodle skirts. But really, it was very bland and and very repressive. We had an economic boom, nonparallel, and a middle class that developed, and that’s who we were. This group of people that in a funny way, didn’t exist before. Yeah. We were given the idea that we had rights and needed to be listened to, and created these ideals of liberation. We had a sexual revolution of sorts that came from ubiquitous birth control. Freedom is a dangerous word because nobody knows what the fuck that means. But anyhow. I see people now, going slick again, like the formal 50s. It was formal, skinny ties, and then it went into the 60’s, hippies ties, where longer hair became more romantic and more flamboyant, and as the 80s came around they found rayon. You know what a great underestimated movie is? Saturday Night Fever. Great movie. Aspirational.
The diversity in Shire’s interests is well suited to his multifaceted, multimedia work over time, which he has shown at an immensely long and impressive list of galleries across the globe. Shire rejects labels, his position in the art world being self-described as “mobile”, approaching utilitarian arts like ceramics, furniture and toy making rather than the core “fine arts”, but applying the highest quality classical craftsmanship. Every reference Shire interprets, from Bauhaus to Art Nouveau to Futurism, he does so in his own very distinct narrative. Glancing around his studio, he pointed out to me the pink tones used on some of the new work. Against the ceramics’ angular shapes, the pink was a play on the traditional Bauhaus red, blue, yellow palate. I wouldn’t say his work is outright sarcastic, but there is a respectful, thoughtful levity that translates through everything Shire does. And this is the unique narrative that has roped the artist into much of the postmodern critical debate that arises in the art world. And not unlike his pieces, Shire, in person, was full of levity— and full of facts. It was a perfect pairing, to wander around the workshop while he gave me a wild oral history of LA, which somehow seemed better suited to the story of him and his work than Memphis history or the famed teapots themselves.
AZ — Do you feel like using mediums that are maybe historically more utilitarian, while making objects that are more eccentric aesthetically was your a reaction to all of that, that idea of liberation?
PS — Obviously, that’s part of it. The thing that we that we’re driving at, that I’m thinking about these days, is that there was a period which is still holding over in many ways, where the middle class became convercent in the art world. They became somehow, if not interested, semi- included, and became a new market if you will. I used to joke with myself because I’d go to these various cities and they take me there visit some of the people that bought things, they all seem to do red, yellow, blue. We would like to call them the red, yellow blue collectors. These were lawyers and doctors and middle class people that were buying art. This is what they understood. It’s interesting. Art is an old story, but it’s a social signifier as much as everything else. And having it, you know, comes with prestige, but why? One of the dealers once told me— and that’s an interesting thing, to call them like drug dealers— said, “We always look for the A type person and get them to buy one first, and everyone else will want one.”
AZ — That’s kind of infuriating, in a vague way. But it makes sense. A necessary evil?
PS — It’s an interesting endeavor, financially. And you know, you’re a small business person to the state of California and the federal government. I’m a small business person, I got all my licenses, they come and check my sewer for pollution and all that kind of stuff. The paperwork is daunting. We’ve got this thing to support and the billing and the cost of things becomes very funny, you know, sometimes it’s on a multiplier of prestige, which we attribute intrinsic value of some sort, which is, which is a polite way of saying prestige and status. And the question always is, if the city was enveloped in soot, like Vesuvius and Pompeii, and everything was perfect, and they dug it up centuries later, how would they read it? Would they choose to look at this, or not look at that.
AZ — That’s a really interesting perspective to have on this matter, very philosophical.
PS — Social anthropology. They probably would put it all together, but it would be much more revealing, much less diversion and diverting. “This is a rich neighborhood, they got this kind of funny thing here, a big old table. And this is what they must do.” My joke is that virtually every house has Mickey Mouse in it. And people that think they don’t would be surprised.
The group met at Miami’s SoHo House—the same venue where Zack Bia first snuck in to see Virgil DJ over five years ago. Before heading to Chicago to attend Abloh’s memorial service, Zack talked to Cole and Raheem about bringing people together, finding your priorities, and, of course, time.
RAHEEM HERCULE — Let’s talk about why it’s such a full circle moment for you to be here right now.
ZACK BIA — I actually think that before we even start talking about anything—and it applies to the full circle thing—is, like, I definitely want to start by just saying how much we love Virgil. I love Virgil and want to say rest in peace to him. A lot of this is only possible just because of him and the ideas he laid out, the help he gave me, doors he opened for me—for everyone—and just allowing people to be multi-hyphenate creative, and kind of defining what that was in an era when people thought you can only do one thing. He broke down all those barriers and as someone who looked up to him very much and was lucky to know him very well, I definitely want to start it all by just dedicating this to him, and showing him the most love or just appreciation... There’s nothing that I can do to do any justice to him, but I at least just want to start by mentioning him first and foremost. We love Virgil. Virgil forever. It’s full circle because my first Basel ever—funny enough, my mom was one of the first creative people that was invited to be a member of SoHo House when it first started in New York in the early days. So, she came to New York. We went to SoHo House all the time when I was a kid—actually, the first was that I got paid for anything was actually curated a playlist for the iPod at SoHo House. They gave my mom like $150 bucks credit or whatever and she gave it to me in cash. Long story short, 2017, my first Art Basel, I came here to throw parties and whatever, and I wasn’t a member at Soho. My mom always said like, ‘When you’re 21.’ I remember being like, a 12-year-old kid being like, ‘I can’t wait to be 21 to get a SoHo membership.’ I thought it was the coolest place ever. You know, time flies, your priorities change. But 2017 Art Basel, Virgil’s DJing the tent party at Soho and I’m DJing tonight. I met Virgil a couple of times and we were cool. We were internet friends or whatever, but I was just such a massive admirer of his and I just wanted to see him DJ so bad. So, he’s DJing this part of the tent I don’t have membership for, where the same five people are sharing the same wristband, like someone will walk it out under the thing, hand you the wristband, boom, boom, boom... Now, five years later, we’re here doing an interview in the same hotel for my first cover ever. And I’m DJing at the same party.
RH — What do you want to do for your community? Like what are you trying to put in front of them in terms of the shit that you’re working on and building? And what do you want them to get out of it?
ZB — The most important thing in the early stages, like in the current stage, is the music. So, Cole and I had this conversation last night about leaving certain things in moments, and art that lasts beyond yourself—it’s bigger than yourself and will last beyond your years. Also, a big thing Cole and I always talk about is, there’s this new movement that’s happening in music, this whole kind of like, underground SoundCloud 2.0. Cole was at the epicenter of the first movement, which changed music forever, because it was like, one of the first modern movements that involved the internet and all the sort of things that were nontraditional in music, just as music was entering the streaming era, and the SoundCloud era. It was like, pop music wasn’t SoundCloud rap. Back then, the music business had kind of been ignoring all these kinds of things—until it got so big that they were like, ‘Shit, this is a massive business, or a massive movement that we’re missing out on.’ Then, you saw like a chickens with their head cut off free-for-all—‘Let’s sign all these SoundCloud artists, any of them, all of them.’ It became this crazy thing in the business. But Cole was at the epicenter of the pure side of it, which is like kids that were just making shit and it was going viral, and it was powerful, transcendent pop music. Juice WRLD is still the number three most streamed artist on Spotify this year. There’s almost like, a little gap where I’m like... This isn’t even necessarily for me as a fan, just for this next generation that’s five years, six years younger than me. Cole, someone who was a part of the first movement and now, and me, who’s kind of championing the second one. So, I was in the first one living in it, being around those artists, but not in a professional setting where I was signing them. After living in it and seeing it now, seeing the second coming that’s formed as we were signing artists, creating a real family where we signed a bunch of them and together they’re all stronger because the whole movement’s getting stronger. It’s not about bringing them to the forefront. Their fan bases are growing every day. It’s clear as day. Now, my whole thing is just letting the rest of the world know that there’s this whole thing happening over here.
COLE BENNET — What Zack is doing, I’d say the most special part about it is: you bring people together and you create community with everything you do. The first time Zack and I ever met—we had been in contact over the internet for a couple years—I was on a video shoot and he saw that I was out in LA working. He was like, ‘Hey, come out tonight.’ He brought me out and we had a good night where he was just introducing me to different people and building genuine relationships. It was just a really amazing thing to see, because a lot of people, and this is much like the first wave of SoundCloud, that first chapter, a lot of people want to gatekeep things, you know what I mean? Even artists. And I think that’s one of those things that starts to kind of tarnish what’s going on and separate people. One of the things about Zack is, he just loves bringing people together. He’s been doing that for so long with the events that he produces, just being a man behind the scenes within culture. So now, with him having such an important piece in the music scene now, you’re able to do that with the artists that you’re working with. That’s what we need in music— community, and bringing people together, bringing different artists together that wouldn’t make music otherwise. That’s one of Zack’s goals, but it’s not something that’s written down necessarily. It’s just something that happens. It’s very natural for him. I think that’s part of his story and his legacy and what he’s creating— moments that wouldn’t be able to happen otherwise, bringing people together that would never meet otherwise. So, I’m curious... What’s the goal of bringing all these different people together?
ZB — People together in music, or in general?
CB — I’d say in general, and then lead that into the music.
ZB — In general, the beauty of it is, I don’t do it for any reason that benefits me. There’s a genuine bond there and genuine respect. The fact that we can bring these people together—I think it’s such a special thing. If I can be that missing link... It’s not about me getting credit, it’s not about this or that. It’s about the moments that happen after—the butterfly effect of introducing these people and what they end up doing together. It’s kinda like what A&R does—helping bring songs to life. I was kind of always doing that socially. That’s why we started the record label.
RH — What are some of the artists that you’re trying to bring to the table right now?
ZB — I think Yeat’s the biggest breakout star next year—or, one of them. I think Kobe’s going to be a breakout star next year. All these kids. Slump6s has this viral song, “Anti-social”—we built that song up and now it has like 80 million streams. It’s a hit. It’s a gold record. I mean, I haven’t checked the actual certification, but it’s about to be a gold record. And he’s a 16-year-old kid who’s in school in upstate New York—in Rochester—who’s an underground superstar. He has 200,000 followers on Instagram, die-hard fans, big viral songs... And he’s 16 years old. I had to schedule our Republic Records calls around his soccer practice. And that’s the reality, that’s the mission. I’m like, ‘These kids are just fucking amazing young kids that we’re trying to help realize their dreams.’ And it’s both of our dreams.
RH — How were you able to attain so much broad access to so many different kinds of artists to even be able to put these people in the same space?
CB — I think for him, it’s what he was saying about how he can appreciate different pieces of, or mediums of, art and culture, and maybe not be too attached to something. It starts with an appreciation and an understanding.
ZB — I think an [understanding] of human beings in general.
CB — Yeah, he gets how people work. He gets how people operate and he knows how to be in a room.
ZB — How to contextualize it.
CB — But there are also low points and we always talk about that too—like, the anxiety and the difficulties of just navigating life. What’s that like for you? The ups and the downs? And how do they affect one another? How do you guide yourself through them, living this crazy life?
ZB — The thing is, I’m sort of on this train that isn’t stopping. And in a sense that, I mean that my work life, my personal life, there’s no distinction—it’s all just one life. Taking calls all day, I’m DJing this, I’m running around, we’re traveling, I’m seeing you hanging out with my friends... It’s all just sort of one melting pot and constantly moving forward. And because I never take a second to stop—I can’t. I’m on this crash course to try and build all these crazy things. I have people I need to take care of. I have things I want to accomplish. I have people I need to help. When you’re dealing with artists, you’re dealing with human beings, their livelihoods, and they’re entrusting you with them. So, I never really have a second to stop, and I get anxious all the time. I deal with people discrediting what I’m doing because they don’t know my story. I deal with family stress, financial stress. The funny thing is, like, I’ve always been the kid that everyone thought was rich, but I’m the one that’s struggling to make it. I mean, I’m not struggling financially anymore, but for a long time, I was struggling to help everyone else take care of people. And I deal with that outside pressure. But it wasn’t intentional... I never really was trying to explain what I’m doing, I was just kind of doing it and people were paying attention along the way. And then there are the people that weren’t paying attention. But I think when I’m 50, this whole chapter of who I am will be a one-page chapter as opposed to all the things we end up doing. And not that it’s for people’s validation or whatever, but I think the greatest thing is when you’re living these amazing moments, we have the self-awareness to talk about it and be like, How amazing is this?
CB — It’s the moments where you pause that are the most special and beautiful. Take it all in. That’s why we have to always remind each other, because it’s one or the other and often at the same time... We gotta just stop. You can’t stop for too long because you can’t fall behind, but you gotta stop for a second, take it all in, keep moving. And I think that’s how the story gets told, and that’s a big part of what Zach’s doing, and what’s being created right now. He’s so truly passionate about what’s going on. It’s real love. It’s real context. And he’s just doing it... There’s gonna be documentaries. There are going to be movies about this shit. I do believe that.
ZB — Yeah, and I think COVID also was this break that we didn’t realize we needed in a sense, trying to take the good out of it. But also in the sense that, funny enough, I thought we’re all back to how it was prior in terms of how people interact. But for a second it was like, ‘Yo, a month has gone by, I’m not getting the same texts from the same people,’ and you realize a lot of the relationships are transactional. Who do I really care about? Who really cares about me? Who am I really talking to? And that’s fine. Some relationships are business, some relationships are more, and that’s totally fine. But I think it also puts a lot of things in perspective for everyone.
CB — Yo, another question—I want to just hop in before I forget it. Time and attention are a currency and I feel like everyone has their own budget for their time and their attention to things. So, how do you recommend someone spend their budget and how do you spend yours? Because you do so many things. I think one of my first questions for Zach after I got to know him for a little bit, I was like, ‘How do you do it?’ But it’s really how you spend your time and attention.
ZB — I think it’s something I’m actually learning more and more about, because I spend so much of my time on others in a beautiful way. I’m happy I do that, but it’s about learning to prioritize what’s genuinely important. And to me, obviously, that’s family, it’s friends. I put friends and family in the same boat. I only have my mom and my brother and I’m super close with them, but because I didn’t grow up around a bunch of cousins and things like that, my close friends are definitely family to me, and my priorities are those key people in my life, and then work and the mission we’re on. We’re not stopping. And I think it’s increasing. As you grow older, you grow increasingly self-aware of not just being on the ride but controlling it. Not being a passenger, but being the one steering the wheel and asking yourself, ‘Where do you want to take it?’ It’s just as scary, but it’s exciting. And I think as I’m on these missions, I have a kind of natural internal clock of, ‘Okay, I need to go get this work done. I need to go do this. I need to go spend this,’ while mixing in moments of leisure when appropriate.
RH — Why don’t you want to stop? What are you worried about? Or is it just another genuine natural occurrence inside of you?
ZB — It’s not. It’s like, anxiety. If I stop, what will happen?
CB — One person we should talk about before we forget is your actual blood brother, Elon.
RH — What advice would you give him?
ZB — Because he’s my little brother, I felt like I was always the one that spoke up for him. My biggest thing for him is, ‘Elon, your voice is powerful. Speak up. You have so many great ideas, and you’re good at writing them down.’ But when it comes to asking for things, he never does. That’s probably part of being a little brother—kind of always feeling like you get hand-me-downs, or you get this thing last. I’m like, ‘Yo, Elon, if you want something, ask for it. You want a budget for something? Tell people.’ And also, if you don’t feel comfortable having those conversations, that’s when you should get other people involved, the kind you feel can facilitate those things. I mean, obviously, you should understand all the business aspects of it, but your main job should just be to be an artist, creating music, coming up with ideas. Let me handle getting the money for that. Let me handle how we distribute this, how we put these things out—all those things. And that goes for any artist. You’re an amazing photographer, videographer, multi-hyphenate creative. And for you, you shouldn’t have to have these conversations at a certain point. Of course, you have to build it up and get there. And it takes a lot of hard work and, really, a lot of tough conversations. But at a certain point, if you feel it’s better for you to have someone else that handles that for you, that makes total sense. I know, for me, once I made that jump to kind of putting my own negotiations and stuff in someone else’s hands that I trusted, it changed everything for me.
CB — So how do you manage trust? You even said that when quarantine started, you kind of—or we all kind of—started to see who’s really there for us, who our friends are, what people’s intentions are... So how do you manage?
ZB — Part of the reason, my quote-unquote story—which I don’t feel is some crazy story— but part of the reason that so little information is shared about my life has always been trust. Because it’s not about sharing our experiences with anyone other than ourselves, you know what I mean? It’s only now that we’re talking about these things. But even for years, we were like, ‘Why is he this person?’—there’s no reason for me to explain it because what we’re doing is a human thing. It’s an in-person thing. It’s like you have to experience it. And trust is the number one thing. We’re so lucky to know so many people. But how do you learn to trust someone you’ve never met in person? Kids are doing that. Also, a lot of mistakes come out of very strong emotions, desperation, excitement. And it’s learning to navigate what’s beyond just that initial feeling. Some people call me and be like, ‘I have this crazy deal for you!’ But it’s contingent upon something else, or their intentions are different, or they want you to help them do this, or it’s a favor for a favor... My favors aren’t like that. My favors are just favors. They’re just because I genuinely care and want to help or whatever. Time really is the biggest thing. You get to learn. You have to make mistakes, or you have to learn from people that made mistakes, and you can’t jump into things. I say no to 99.9 percent of things. And probably, some of them, I should say yes to. But I’m so extra careful with my trust and so extra careful in doubling down on what I’m personally doing and what I’m trying to build that... I don’t know. You just gotta figure it out.
CB — Is it the same for you, as time goes on? Because, 10 years from now, think about all the people you’ve met. You probably have the biggest networking catalogue of friends and associates that probably already ask you for favors all the time. Is that stressful for you? And how do you think you’ll be able to manage that?
ZB — It is stressful, and I’m learning the power of no, because if anyone asks me how to do anything, I’ll always try to make it happen. But I’m learning at what expense.
CB — Yeah. Give, give, give.
ZB — Give, give, give. Is it, in terms of the power of no, saving my own personal sanity? Or saving... What if someone wants an introduction to you, and it’s quite possibly a waste of your time? No disrespect, but maybe it’s something you’re not interested in. How do I protect that from even happening? And that just goes back to The Future’s point about integrity and learning to navigate that.
AZ— Absolutely. That concept holds a lot of weight, but just as much hope, speaking as a woman who has been there.
DT— That’s what I’m hoping for, because I know everyone’s situation is different and some are going to obviously be a lot harder. But that’s one of the things—if I could just tell anyone who’s having a really hard time, if you could just hang on. It might take some months, or maybe it’s going to take a few years, but I do think it’ll get better. You’ve just got to find something to hang onto. And it hurts. I’m sure it hurts more for the people who lose loved ones too, who don’t find that hope or something to hold onto and it really is heartbreaking.
CB — And the thing he said was, ‘If you tell someone ‘No,’ they might be mad at you, but they’re going to respect you.’ And a friendship, relationship, whatever it may be, can always be built back up, if there’s a foundation of respect. People have to respect ‘No.’ And we have to normalize ‘No.’ It’s always, ‘How much for a music video? How do we get in touch for a music video?’ And I say, ‘It’s not about the money.’ I always say I just let the world turn. I just let the world turn, and we’ll see what happens. And I think that’s how we have to approach life and everything. We got to enjoy ourselves and our journey, as well. It can’t be give, give, give, because it’s been that for so long. It’s like, okay, now we’re here. Let’s build it into something beyond us.
ZB — I ask for very few favors. Sometimes, I wonder if I should do more, connect more business with people I know. But the answer is, for me, that’s not really the way.
CB — But you do it in such a natural way. You put people in the same room. And if it’s supposed to happen, it’ll happen. Going back to delegation, by the way, one of Virgil’s biggest fortes was finding the right people to get involved. Pedro [Cavaliere] on the music front, his design team, what kids to help. And this is someone who was able to prioritize everything from Louis Vuitton, the biggest luxury company in the world, to designing a t-shirt for the local skate shop. And he actually saw equal importance in all these different things. That’s sort of what made him so great—he could touch all these different touch points across culture, across people’s lives.
ZB — And when he passed a couple of days ago, you start to see this influx of Virgil memories and Virgil posts. And you’re like, ‘Damn. How many fucking people have amazing memories with this guy?’ This is a guy who turned 24 hours into a week. And he would be in 10 places at once. And everyone has a story because he somehow found time for all these people, maybe more so than he even should have. Always giving.