You’ve traveled the world quite extensively and through those experiences have been able to flex your creative muscles through photography and other outlets – during quarantine has there been one form of expression that you find yourself drawn to the most?
It’s been quite varied. I’ve been painting a lot. I don’t particularly want to be a painter, I’m not very good at it – it’s not something that I’m gonna put on Instagram and people are gonna be like, “You’re so talented.” But I really enjoy the process - I like having the time at the moment to be able to sit and do something for three hours. It feels like a luxury, so I’ve really been enjoying that and it’s also quite an inner-child connecting kind of thing. Painting and not caring about what it looks like, and getting immersed in the activity is wonderful.
You wrote the very personal and honest essay No One Can See Me Cry on Zoom. Your sincerity is comforting. What can you share about your experience writing it and what prompted you share it with everyone?
I’ve been a really avid reader since I was a child. I’ve found that the most special thing about reading something, which goes for most art forms but that I find particularly pertains to literature, is when you read something and feel like you’re reading someone else’s experience that resonates with you and your own experience. That might be something that you haven’t even shared with somebody before – like a clicking moment in your head. I’ve always loved writing, I’ve had diaries since I was a child. I just wanted to write something about how I’ve been feeling and I hope it’s something that makes somebody else feel a connection – maybe they feel misunderstood, maybe they feel alone. I want to share things so that other people can see them and then can feel like they’re not alone.
There’s a particular line in the essay that really hit me. You wrote: “Depression fragments your reality in a way that can be uncontrollable, hypnotic, and sometimes beautiful.”’ During this time, has there been anything about yourself or even the world that you recently discovered that you find beautiful or have never noticed before?
For me it might not be noticing something new, but I’ve definitely had the experience the last few weeks of being able to really reconnect with myself and develop new parts of my relationship with myself that I haven’t had the chance to do before. Obviously, I’m extremely lucky to be in a safe space and not have to worry about a lot of things that many people are having to worry about right now – like having food to eat and having money to support my family right now – I’m not having to worry about those things, which is a blessing. I’ve found it a really valuable time to focus and reflect on the last years of my life and where I am with myself because at the moment we’re all in a space where we’re not being validated by other people around us. I’ve had a lot of personal growth, realizations, and conversations with myself about things which might not be very fun or comfortable. Being alone and having everything stripped away has been a really enriching experience.
And it’s so important to have an outlet to express these shifts in perception, bringing me to The Quarantine Diary, which you created with your friend Jessica [Lawson]. What can you share about it?
It’s actually special, me doing this with Jess [Lawson] because she’s the person I’ve been best friends with the longest in my life. My family are English but we moved to Cape Town when I was around 13 and Jess was in the same high school as me. We’ve always had a very open relationship with each other about our mental health – we both had a lot of mental health struggles when we were in high school. We became allies and bonded a lot. Despite living in different countries, we always speak a lot, voice note a lot and Skype. I had the idea for the project the first few weeks I came back to Cape Town because they were closing the borders and my parents wanted me to come back here. I didn’t really want to be by myself in London because I have no extended family there. I got here and was going through it with my mental health. I was so depressed, so anxious, my moods were so erratic. We all have goals we’re working towards and projects we’re working on and all these things have been fallen by the wayside, suddenly our whole world got turned around its head. I wanted to start a platform, something like a diary. At first, I thought “I’m just going to do it for me” and then I wrote the No One Can See Me Cry on Zoom piece. I woke up one morning and I was like, “Fuck. I really think it could be such an amazing thing to create a diary platform for everybody to use” - spoke to Jess about the idea and we developed it together. It was very much born from our love for platforms like Tumblr when we were younger, where you’d be a teenager sitting in your bedroom feeling like you had this connection with other people and a creative outlet where you could put anything you liked. That was where the idea came from and we spent two weeks hashing everything out and building the website. It’s been a really rewarding project so far. It’s so incredible to see people using the platform and we’ve had some really incredible messages from people.