Aida Tepe — We are not like best friends. More like roommates. Or even siblings… [laughs] It’s not like we talk about everything. I'm not keeping anything secret, but there are just certain things we do not need to share. Like you wouldn’t share everything with your roomie, even if you knew that you could. I like to call her Dudu. Like with a fat American accent, “Duuuduuu”, Like she does when she introduces herself when we’re abroad. I get a lot of fun, entertainment even, out of teasing her. And that’s when we end up shouting at each other like siblings would.
Ayse Dudu — Now that you are at an age when you’ve grown more into your own person, the lines are more blurred. I’m still your mother, and ultimately the one who set the rules. You’re my daughter, but also my friend. But I’m the one who must comfort you – you’re more off the hook when I’m sad. That's probably how it should be.
AT — You are always the one who doesn’t understand the word no. Especially when it comes to posting some funny pic on Instagram. Then I threaten to start crying. And you are so annoying around my friends. Like it’s not a particular thing… it’s just your attitude. And it’s not even mean-spirited, it’s just…
AD — Me being true to me. That has also benefited you, you know.
AT — I know. The age gap. It’s never really been an issue. You are really good at including me, sharing your friends with me, even bringing me to a bachelorette party at 11 where there was a stripper… You never shut me out.
AD — Yeah, and it’s not because I’m “the cool mom” or anything – it just makes sense to us to share things. But you hate it when a waiter flirts with me, and I flirt back…
AT — Absolutely hate it… Especially because this week it was in Turkish, so I didn’t understand any of it. I think those incidents happen so often because people don’t realize that I’m your kid. They think we’re friends, or even lesbian lovers.
AD — I never play into that though. I prefer the roles to be clear to everyone else. That said, I still make fun of the fact that I have a child. Like that is fun. I’m not the mothering kind. Whatever that is. I’m more like your special person with benefits. I treat you exactly like I would treat everyone else – with respect and decency and irony and love. I’m mostly your mom, [for example] when I have to say no to something. The older you get, the more problems we can share and discuss.
AT — I still don’t want to involve you in my love life. Too embarrassing. You are too embarrassing. Your idea of fun is mortifying me [laughs]. But I’ve always enjoyed the freedom you’ve given me. The freedom to have my own opinions, my own thoughts. You’ve never censored me.
AD — I don’t own you. I don’t even want you to share my views. My job is to challenge you to form your own.
AT — And in that respect we are very much alike. Your friends even point it out. We are quite persistent when it comes to debating issues. We disagree on a lot of things, and neither of us can let it go.





























